Part 3: The Game

“You get in there, you find the crack; like some are drugs, some are just, they need to hear ‘I love you.’ ” – Matthew Deiaco (convicted pimp out of Toronto, Canada)1

Often times we wonder how women and girls can get lured into sex trafficking. We think that they should know better, that they should have more common sense. That they should be able to see the signs that this guy is only after them to sell their bodies.

pexels-photo-247899But the truth of the matter is that most of the time traffickers don’t come across as traffickers. They come across as the nice guy who says that he loves you. Or the boyfriend who says that you can move in with him. He’s the night in shining armour that rescues you from the nightmare that is your home life. And while traffickers and pimps do sometimes resort to kidnapping girls and boys; it is far more likely that they will try to woo them, to make them fall in love with them.

According to an investigative article published by the Toronto Star in which they interview Matthew Deiaco, a pimp in the greater Toronto area, pimps will:

“Prey on girls who are broken; girls who “need that daddy figure.” It begins with the boyfriend stage: romantic dates, the illusion of love and the promise of a future, complete with a house they would own together. Then it’s the grooming, the gifts and the hints about how much money she could make working in the sex trade.”

Once the trafficker has the girl’s heart in his hands, he begins to use his perceived love to pexels-photo-594421manipulate her. He’ll tell her that she owes him now, and that she has to pay him back for all of the gifts that he gave her. Deiaco said that he would tell girl’s that he was “putting [his] 50 in, [so] you have to do your 50. So there’s another way, you can have sex with guys, but don’t worry, I’m going to love you. At the end of the night you’re home with me.”

It’s at that moment that the girls become truly trapped and the illusion of love and security dissolves. The pimp peels off the mask of the caring boyfriend and reveals himself for what he really is: a manipulative money hungry monster.

However tricking and trapping girls does not only happen in person. With the help of the internet is has becoming increasingly easy to not only sell people online, but also to meet them online.  The sheer number of websites that cater to the buying and selling of people for the purpose of pleasure is astounding. Yet so often they get overlooked, even though people like you and me are browsing these sites every day.

These sights are the online classified pages, where people sell cars, used clothes, dressers…and sex. The most notorious of these pages is, where the categories for sex workers are right next to the categories for jobs and cars. It is on this page that thousands of people are bought and sold each day; and where hundreds of pimps make thousands of dollars each day (for more information on the fight to shut down the human classifieds on Backpage, check out the documentary I am Jane Doe). But how is it that these women, men, and children get persuaded to sell themselves online in the first place?

friends-phone-bed-bite-163112A report from FAIR Girls in 2015 said that “about 90 percent of the people it helped in Washington D.C. and Maryland had been sold online.”2 Chatrooms make up for a large portion of a traffickers hunting grounds, as these sites are often anonymous, or give the illusion of being secure. However with the ever growing slew of social media applications, it is easier than ever before for traffickers and pimps to worm their way into the lives of their soon-to-be victims. Through the more traditional platforms of Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, traffickers can get an up close look at the lives of the people they are preying on. It also often gives them enough personal information for them to be able to create a character that would then lure the girl or boy into their trap.

Conversely apps such as Snapchat, Kik, Skype, and Whatsapp are all predominately used in the act of trafficking and selling people because they erase messages and pictures either instantly or over time. It is the allure of committing a crime while leaving no trace that draws many pimps to use these online services to sell their girls. It is also “safer” and “lower risk” to sell prostitutes online, than to have them standing on street corners. Yet nothing is ever totally erased, so it is also this switch to online marketing that has made it easier for authorities to track the pimps movements as well as who they are selling.

The world is an ever evolving place, and the tactics that pimps and traffickers use are changing and evolving right along with it. Nevertheless the rules of “The Game” as pimps call it, stay the same:

  1. They sell the girls the dream of a rich, happy life together. The only catch is that she has to sell herself in order for them to achieve that goal
  2. Once she starts prostituting, the pimp then takes all of the money that she makes as payment for all that he has done for her
  3. The pimp will disable her social media accounts and completely cut her off from her friends and family. He may also threaten to hurt her or her family if she tries to leave
  4. By the time that she realises that the dream she was sold is no longer going to come to fruition it is too late; there is no going back and there is no leaving
  5. Once she is “broken in” she is sold to as many as 15-20 people a night, and is brainwashed into thinking that her pimp truly loves her
  6. There is no escaping because she will be beaten and tortured if she tries, and by this point she believes that there is no one in the world who cares about her or who she could turn to for help
  7. The pimp goes out to find his next “girlfriend”

pexels-photo-568025This is the vicious cycle that is taking place every single day, all around the world. It is a cycle of manipulation and sexual, emotional, physical, and psychological abuse. It is a cycle that offers up no route of escape for those trapped in it. That is why is so important that there are organizations all over the world that are fighting to break the cycle and end modern day slavery everywhere.

So next time you see someone who is ensnared in human trafficking and think to yourself “She should have known better, she really brought this upon herself”, remember that she is not there by choice. She is there because someone used her pain to manipulate her, and have used and abused her to keep her there. She did not bring this upon herself, she was tricked. And anyone can be tricked.




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